My Story – How I Learned to Make Magic That Makes Change

Lex smiling hanging upside down from a tree in a park.

I followed “the rules” once. Get good grades. Don’t talk like a hick. Don’t let anyone know you’re queer. Get a degree in something useful.

And it pulled me farther and farther from who I was, who I wanted to be, who I was meant to be. It pulled me away from my roots. I moved across the country, leaving my home and my family. I got degrees in physics and mechanical engineering. I quit making music and writing poetry.

And as I got further and further from my roots, I became increasingly powerless to act within my own life.

You see, three years ago I was getting my PhD in Environmental Engineering, hiding my queerness, neurodivergence, learning disability, and my witchiness. I was constantly exhausted from denying myself at the most basic level and trying to be someone entirely different. I was betraying my values every day. I hadn’t made a single piece of creative work for over 4 years (a devastating fact for someone who entered college as a jazz performance major/creative writing minor). I was in utter inner chaos. I was mentally and physically exhausted, living with a deeply unfulfilling feeling like it was all wrong and I was powerless to fix it.

But I felt the lie of this deep in my soul. Deep inside me there was something that refused to believe that I was powerless to do anything about the way things were. I knew there HAD to be a way that I could live my values, that I could be present for life, AND to take ACTION and make CHANGE in my life and my world. Luckily, on a whim I bought myself a tarot deck and I began the journey l that brought me back to myself.

Tarot was the tool that brought me back to myself. Out of my high-flying career track, back to my home state, back to my working class, Rustbelt/Appalachian roots, creating, living, and taking aligned action.

This wasn’t my first encounter with tarot. I was first introduced to tarot as a kid, just eleven years old. A friend’s grandmother was a reader, a real old-school psychic. She showed me the deck, explained what the cards meant. The cards were fascinating, gorgeous, layered, & so powerful. I learned to read in her style. Back then, 3 of Swords showed me only heartbreak, betrayal, trauma. The Devil was addiction and pain. It was scary, fixed, disempowering, not to mention gendered & normative as fuck. I stopped reading cards before I turned 13.

But when I was at my most paralyzed, tarot was there for me. This system of 78 cards, impossibly mystical to me when I first encountered it at 10 years old, grounded me, brought me into and down through myself. Tarot connected me to my magic, to the place where I held power over my own life. I was finally able to take the steps, to make the choices, to change my life for the better, to live my dreams.

I re-wove my connection to the root of my own power, my ability to take radical and joyous action for the better. I rewrote the rules that kept me small. Out of the utter, unaligned, disempowered chaos of my life I was able to build the life I wanted. I quit my PhD and left behind the high-flying career track that meant I’d have to betray my values to earn a pay check. I moved back to my home state, back to my roots. I planted a garden and slowed way the fuck down. And I created my own business that supports me and allows me to support my community. I learned to make magic that makes change.

I’m Lex (They/Them). I am a chronically-ill, neurodivergent, radical, queer mystic living in the Great Black Swamp (traditional lands of the Miami, Potawatomi, and Peoria). I am here to help you connect to magic that makes change through tarot and folk magic!

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